To be responsible or not to be responsible.

I am sitting out in my favorite room of my house.  It is an enclosed porch where I can sit in the sun as I feel the brisk, fragrant breezes which blow through the cedar trees before entering through the window beside me. This is my favorite place to sit and think.  Since it is getting colder here in Colorado, I am able to use this room more now.  I am so happy I can write out here today before it gets too hot.

I was doing my meditation last night before going to sleep, and an article I had read earlier in the day came to mind.  It was about a race of entities that came to earth to learn the same things we are here to learn, no I am no smoking cannabis.  I do believe we are not the only spirits that come here to learn about all the aspects of life.

The thing that stuck out in their writing for me was how they described why we get the diseases we do,  which causes us to lose the overwhelming responsibilities we are taught, so that we may go back to our natural selves.

I include the whole article, the link will be posted below:

The illusion of responsibility

“From the time you’re born to the time you die, you are told that you must be responsible. That to ‘grow up,’ you must be willing to accept more responsibility. And, of course, the more responsibility you take on, the more you’re told that you’re grown up.

As a child, you can’t wait to accept the responsibility to grow up.

As you grow up, then you take on more responsibility to become more grown.

And finally, when you get into your later years of existence is when you begin to realize that the acceptance of responsibility was sheer poppycock, and you start to divest yourself of it.

Finally, when you suffer from Alzheimer’s, you let go of all responsibility. And you take on this particular perspective of Alzheimer’s to get rid of the blame for your existence.

So in truth, dear friends, you make responsibility that which is necessary to grow up.”

– The Wonders

 

So this had me thinking about how life comes full circle.  I remember as a kid not liking the constant push for a job that I hated, my mom even dragged me to a place and made me get a job.  My passion in life was to be a writer, and yet that was not a real Job to my parents, Why are we forced to do what we think is responsible instead of doing what our hearts ask us to do.  We grow up being taught that we need a job, to get married and then have children.  If we stray from that, we are called slackers or unresponsible.  Yet when you talk to someone up in years, they always wish they would have followed their dreams not their responsibilities.

I flunked the test to get into the army on purpose.  My parents knew I did that too, sheesh I held a 3.5-grade point average I should have aced it.  But I didn’t want to go into the military it wasn’t my dream! My parents taught me that I needed to get a job or get married.  I was informed that I was to be of service to men and that I was not worthy of anything but what I was handed.  I became resentful, depressed and angry.  My responsibilities were not what I wanted to be responsible for.  The only reliable thing I did was love and cherish my kiddo’s.   The responsible thing I am doing now is forgetting everything I was ever taught that was demeaning, fear-based and limited thinking.

The part that really hit home with me in this article is watching how my mom is declining from the rapid onset Alzheimer’s she has, no I do not think that it is a punishment, but I do see it as a way of helping her become more childlike.  My mom was a military woman, who was super strict, is now no more than a child trying to transverse through a medically induced coma of drugs. What if instead of drugging our ailing parents which causes more harm, we used all natural God given herbs to help them get back to healthy unresponsible for bullshit stuff humans? What if it was ok to not be anal repulsive, angry little old people?? smile

My question last night to myself was why are we taught that the only way we can grow up is by taking on responsibility, but here is confusion angle of this equation that has me a bit confused, I know the meaning of  Responsibility to me is,  we accept responsibility for our own behavior.  I sure don’t see many people taking on that responsibility.  How about the blame for the children you bring into the world or the puppies and kitties you adopt.  So to the Wonders, I wonder what responsibility they are speaking about?

I meditated on this question this morning when I woke up, and this is what I heard from my heart.  We are not responsible for others when it comes to their happiness.  We are not responsible for all that is happening outside of our life.  So how do you know which responsibilities are ours? When we get to the point where all you do is panic, have anxiety and stress in your daily life you know you have taken on to many outside responsibilities.  When experience is not fun, work is more critical and we allow sad, ugly things to control your life that’s a big sign that you have taken on to many responsibilities that are not yours.

I have experienced these things.  The more I live in the moment, don’t watch the news, allow the angels, spirit guides, divine to bring me information then I know that is my cue that I can do something about that. In fact, when those things are brought to you the answer on what you can do to help comes with it as well. If I am doing anything, I take responsibility for it, if it is someone else is doing things that I am not I know it isn’t my responsibility!

Hey, that reminds me… we can help with all these disasters by donating Five dollars to the hurricane, earthquake victims.  I do not need to feel guilty for not having a significant disaster happening in my neck of the woods.  I do not believe that it is the end of the world, we live on a very active planet, Hello??  I do have compassion for others, but I will not allow that compassion or that feeling of responsibilities to drive me into an early grave or cause me to go on medications.  I pray for the world every night, I am grateful for every single thing I have.

Oh, and you do not need to feel guilty for not having a significant disaster happening in your neck of the woods.

I do not believe that it is the end of the world, we live on a very active planet, Hello??  I do have compassion for others, but I will not allow that compassion or that feeling of responsibilities to drive me into an early grave or cause me to go on medications.  I pray for the world every night, I am grateful for every single thing I have.

I asked myself this question this morning… what responsibilities have you taken on that are keeping you from seeing the awesome things in life? What miracles are you missing, what loves are you giving up due to an unrealistic expectation of responsibilities?  It is very freeing when you figure out that this life was meant for you to experience life to its fullest, not be ruled by limited, fear-based thoughts and beliefs. To put responsibilities back in context helps as well.

I have found that the quickest way for change to happen is when we finally acknowledge that we want a change to occur.  We do not have to plan or make plans it is as simple as just allowing the truth that is in your heart to come to the surface. The universe has a way of bringing what we need when we let our truth to come forward.

Ending thought: I think that the circle of life is remembering the child we once were, where our only responsibility was taking care of yourself, playing, loving and being all you could be.  I feel like the message that I was supposed to receive from that article was not to take life so seriously.

WWYHS ( What would your heart say)

 

 

Reference: https://www.thewonders.com/wordpress/the-illusion-of-responsibility/

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